The Male Idiot
A personal growth play workshop for men
With Thilo Nonne & Richard Kimberley
The Male Idiot
A self growth play workshop for men. An exploration into masculinity, vulnerability and the idiocy of society within us.
The idiot! One thing to clear up here. We use this word in the warmest and most beauteous sense. We are aware this word has a negative connotation in our society. This is why we have trained all our lives to hide what could be called our idiot. It’s through this 'Beautiful idiot' and it’s connection through clown work, which we have found a truth of humanity that lies within. Our failure, our uniqueness, our sparkling eyes, our brilliance, our imperfection. What makes us, us. A fascinating idiot who feels a lot and understands little. How can we embrace our idiot? inviting his failure lightly and for him to take a vital part in our daily lives.
The Male! We (Men) have grown into who we are today within a patriarchal society that supported us to dislocate from our idiots, our emotions and vulnerability. Boys don’t cry, we are not weak, we should feel little and understand everything. This puts our idiots into a place of shame. Masking a vital part that connects us to ourselves, each other and life.
We carry a collective wound from this and we wish to create a playful space to explore and play what is within each one of us.
We will use Gestalt therapy and Clown work to explore these themes. We will play, move, share and express. We will question, reflect, grief and laugh. We will stand together and tackle these themes with playful seriousness and enjoy the ridiculousness they bring. We will have compassion for our wounds and we will step towards them with connection and idiocy.
The workshop will be held in English, a comfortable understanding is required. We understand and speak German as well if needed.
About the Facilitators
After several years of discovering masculinity within me, how I was shaped as a man from my family and society, how I limit myself because I view myself as a man, how I hurt (myself and) others with my masculinity and how I perpetuate something I don’t even want to be, I am still constantly discovering new layers and areas of the men within myself.
Through workshops and my professional background as a conflict trainer and Gestalt practitioner I learned to come past the self-judgment and stepping into the pain, the shame and also the ridiculousness of myself. I learned to take respons-ability for myself and society. Doing that I enjoy walking the line between humour and staying serious at the same time. And I enjoy working with men to discover our true selves beyond our gendered frame.
Joining forces with Richard I love discovering what the male idiot brings out of us and see the collateral beauty of stepping into the vulnerable idiots that hide behind the masculine masks we are used to wear.
Through training, teaching and performing theatre over the last 10 years I experience a playful connection to my own ridiculousness.
I discovered how clown work brings up an exploration of humanity, openness and vulnerability. I became hooked. I wish to explore deeper and share this work.
As a male growing up in our world I experienced a pressure to hide what I felt, my vulnerability and my love. I struggled as I didn’t connect to how ‘a man should be’. I lost vitality. My view on being a male was damaged. I distanced myself from this.
I am now in work to come back into contact with these wounds and step towards them with the support of other men.
I see a strong and healing connection between clown work and men work. To not take yourself too seriously, to hold your ridiculousness lightly and to be open to what is.
Exploring this work with Thilo is a step deeper in my process and I’m excited in what we find playfully tackling this important work together.
Find out more of me here
Comments from past participants.
"Mostly i enjoyed to share beliefs, hopes, fears, dreams and shame with a group of men. To recognise I am not alone. To rediscover a playfulness in life and to gather strength with others to overcome masks that limit us.
This workshop confused me. I mean the good kind of confusion. The one that makes you breathe, laugh and grow afterwards.
Thank you so much for this journey! I'll never forget it!"
"I enjoyed allowing to not know, to make mistakes and to laugh about it. I also enjoyed being together with people who are exploring masculinity. I was touched by the beautiful things that showed themselves behind our masks.
For me, the essence of the Male Idiot is the beauty of failure."
"I really loved the combination of Richard and Thilo, they held a very safe and fun space together. It was a really inspiring weekend which opened up some important questions and insights. It was also very healing for me to play, reflect and BREATHE within a group of men."
Nikos Wölfl Germany
There are currently two separate upcoming workshops.
To be clear the 2 dates are not one extended workshop.
There are 2 workshops for you to choose from.
with 12 spaces each.
26-28th February 2021
16-18th April 2021
Friday 10:00 - 17:30
Saturday 10:00 - 17:30
Sunday 10:00 - 17:30
Sliding scale 180-280Euros.
(See more about sliding scales below)
Application and Questions
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On Sliding Scales
For a sliding scale to work it relies on the principles of truthfulness, respect for complexity, and accountability. We do not ask for income verification. We trust you to be honest. Community thrives when accountability is a central value, because that is where trust grows and depth work can be done.
Facilitators deserve to get paid and participants deserve classes which recognise the multiple realities of economic access and privilege that exist.
The top price reflects the true worth of the workshop, so that our needs as facilitators are sustainably covered. If you are able to pay for "wants" and spend little time worried about securing necessities in your life, you have economic privilege and power in our community. This price is for you.
A middle price is for those who are able to meet their basic needs but have little-to-no expendable income. Paying for this class may qualify as a sacrifice but it would not create hardship.
A bottom price is for those who struggle to meet basic needs and paying for this class would still be a significant hardship.
You are of course always welcome to pay more, this way you make it possible for us to make our work accessible for less privileged participants, who also want to learn!
If you are interested and want to learn more about sliding scale principles we recommend the Texts by Alxis J. Cunningfolk.
We are learning and encouraging an open conversation about money, with everything that appears around it (e.g. shame, self-worth etc.)